- Three Master’s degrees and a PhD in progress may suggest a smooth path to success, but Malaika Mahlatsi’s journey is full of rejection
- Even with all the apparent success, men have not spared her from breaking her heart
- Mahlatsi refuses to identify with women who reject men after being hurt, insisting she will always return to the dating world openly
For many people, constant disappointment in relationships can lead to caution or even withdrawal. But for Malaika Mahlatsi, a PhD student in Germany with three Master’s degrees, depression has never been a reason to give up on love.
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The scholar has already completed three Master’s degrees in three different faculties, Science, Engineering and the Built Environment, and Humanities, in three different universities.
Yet behind the impressive professional resume is a story he says is full of intense pressure and recurring challenges.
Mahlatsi describes her educational path as one of tough supervision, tough seniority committees and times of rejection that tested her confidence.
But every time he faced criticism or obstacles, he says he allowed himself a moment of frustration before returning to finish what he started.
“After every brutal torture and rejection, I get angry and feel inadequate for a few minutes,” he said. “Then I go back, finish the degree and sign up for another one.”
Old grievances of Mahlatsi
That same resilience, he says, also defines how he approaches his personal life.
Despite facing divorce, infidelity and the unexpected death of a lover, Mahlatsi says she refuses to be afraid or worried about relationships.
Instead, he chooses to see each disappointment as something to deal with and move forward.
She admits that grief can bring anger and tears, and sometimes long emotional emails.
But after giving herself time to heal, often spending a year looking after herself, she says she is finally finding the courage to open her heart again.
“I don’t identify with women who stop lusting after men after being hurt. What do you mean? Men are so sweet!” he wrote.
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Why Mahlatsi still believes in love
For Mahlatsi, resilience is not pretending that pain doesn’t exist. Instead, it’s about letting yourself feel it, and then moving forward anyway.
“I can’t hurt enough to write to men.” “Let the men” drink. For what good reason? he participated. “Leave them for what good reason? I die in battle.”
As he moves to complete his PhD in Germany, the scholar says he remains as committed to his academic goals as he is to living life to the fullest, even in the face of despair.
For him, obstacles, whether in research or relationships, are not the end, but just another challenge to overcome.
Mahlatsi was disappointed by friends
In an earlier statement, Mahlatsi revealed that a month after her divorce, she stayed with her ex-husband and was surprised by what she discovered.
While having lunch with her ex, she went through her inbox and was disappointed to discover that some of her friends were hitting on her.
Mahlatsi noted that some of the women had previously praised the couple’s relationship, highlighting the sudden change in their interaction.
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